Since the death of Joan Rivers death last week I have tuned into every tribute on television and read every update on my fav celeb gossip sites. If you follow me on Twitter you probably could tell I was a fan of Joan Rivers and was on full alert last weekend. Like many of you in funeral service I was particular intrigued by the excerpt from Joan River’s 2012 book “I Hate Everyone…Starting With Me” where she openly shared exactly what she wanted for her funeral service.
For me, it was refreshingly inspiring. Over the years I have joked with my close family and friends that I want to be in dressed in a champagne gown, embalmed with my arm up holding a champagne glass toasting everyone. I want champagne flowing while everyone listens to Lawrence Welk, Tina Turner and Elvis Presley. I want Tony Lovello, a world famous accordion player, to entertain people like they’ve never been entertained before. I want people to taste my favorite candy (Ruth Hunt Candy) and people see the thousands upon thousands of pictures I have taken since I was in high school documenting nearly every life experience I ever had. I want the tapestry of myself Karl Weisenbeck from Funeral Home Gifts gave me for my 35th birthday displayed in a ridiculously obvious place for everyone to see. I have visions of my funeral team - Stacey Cassidy and Brandy Hardwood ~ swooping in with clip boards and walk talkies bossing everyone around. While it all seems quite outlandish it really isn’t a joke and it’s one thing to talk about it, but what crossed my mind this week is maybe I should be like Joan Rivers and put it writing.
So after Joan Rivers funeral I decided to update my pre-arrangement on BeRemembered.com. I’m providing to my funeral team more details, more ideas, more demands and more direction. I am leaving no mystery as to what I want just like Joan Rivers.
Another impactful Joan Rivers moment making it’s rounds on the internet is the open conversation Joan had with her daughter Melissa about her death. It was an incredibly moving conversation one that most of us don’t have with our closest family members and friends. I was so moved by it that my goal by then end of next week is to record Private Messages through BeRemembered.com that will be delivered after my death to family and friends.
We all need to take a lesson from Joan Rivers and make our wishes known and be as detailed as possible. Before BeRemembered.com my funeral plans were in a folder written out on a funeral home arrangement form. While my plans overall were somewhat unique, but the reality is they were as boring as the arrangement form itself. I say be wickedly inspired by Joan Rivers, be as detailed and demanding as you want to be because it truly is the final curtain call.